This is very intuitive, but some people fail to realize it. Keeping a marriage intact can be a lot of work, but there are some tools available to spouses who want to keep their marriage from falling apart. Marriage counseling can be a powerful one.

Sometimes, however, a person with marriage problems will believe that actually filing for divorce will “send a message” to their spouse, and actually somehow change that person’s way of acting in a way that will help reconcile the marriage. This is usually not the case.

The reality is, once you lawyer up and actually file a divorce case, the chances of reconciling your marriage will likely decrease. This is something that everyone contemplating this course of action should know.