But what if I don’t want a divorce?

So often only one person wants a divorce. The other is left feeling like they are being dragged on a ride they don’t want to go on. Often times they may think if I go along with mediation then it seems like I am giving up and I’m not ready to give up on my marriage. Or they may feel like they want to have a record that this divorce wasn’t their idea and mediation makes it seem mutual.
These feelings are normal and anyone who feels that way is not alone. But I would say to those people who are truly suffering with facing a divorce they are completely against that mediation may in fact be a more peaceful solution to the pain of divorce.13
First you never have to agree to anything or sign anything at mediation. But it may be a good opportunity to get a lot of your positions across to the other side through a neutral third party. It is amazing how much better a spouse may listen in this environment. Mediation also allows for a lot more discussion as oppose to “testimony” given at a hearing. There is more flexibility in mediation.
If your heart is breaking because of an impending divorce please consider mediation as a gentler way to help you through this tough time.

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